Faces on Faith: I can still remember
One of the most difficult aspects of life we all must deal with is loss of memory. In the last few years of her life, my mother suffered from dementia. She could remember her childhood but she would forget what happened in the past hour. I called her every evening and when she picked up the phone her first comment was always, “Why haven’t you called me?” Some of you reading this have a loved one who suffers from Alzheimer’s. This disease is difficult to deal with because it destroys a person’s ability to remember. Certainly memory is a gift we should cherish as long as possible.
When a loved one passes away, it is important for the family to remember. It is also important for those who experience painful memories to find hope and healing. Davis Seamands wrote a book entitled “The Healing of Memories.” One of the things I like about the book is that, according to Seamands, the mind is a mystery. It sometimes helps to talk with someone, but he also speaks of the power of prayer where God’s love heals difficult wounds.
I remember meeting years ago with a couple for premarital counseling. At our first meeting, the bride-to-be confessed that every time she entered a church she experienced extreme pain. The church reminded her of her stepfather, who used religion as a way of control. Over a period of months, we talked, prayed, and experienced the power of God’s healing love. In the end, her beautiful wedding took place inside the church. A few years later this lovely couple attended worship and we were able to remember their special day.
Yes, memory is a precious gift. When we celebrate Holy Communion through the bread and cup, we are reminded of Jesus’ death on the cross. In the book of James, we are encouraged to be both hearers and doers of God’s word. Just like prayer, remembering scripture can bring us healing and hope. I can still remember the first Bible I truly looked at. It was called “The Living Bible.” The first few pages were an index to scripture that address specific issues about life. For example, if you are depressed, look at Philippians 4:4-7. Remembering the peace that passes all understanding made a difference for me.
Memory is a precious gift. Let us use it to grow closer to God.
The Rev. Larry L. Marshall is the pastor at the Captiva Chapel by the Sea.